Do any of you all get frustrated when people can't do what you do? Like say you have a cold but you still go to work, while you coworker takes two days off. I really struggle with this.

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Lori
over 1 year

ALL THE TIME, and l am always trying to remember that my way is ok and so is theirs. l dont have to be them and they dont have to be me. l love , last weeks quote, you cant talk butterfly, to Caterpillar people.

SarahJoy
over 1 year

@Tanya yes it is best to stay home when you're sick. And truthfully, that was just a fake scenario haha. The person is missing work because she is getting a tooth pulled. It's hard for me to find empathy for her because I have had teeth pulled and gone back to work the next day. But everyone is different 🤷‍♀️

Tanya
over 1 year

I have major illness phobia so for me I would try and teach the whole damn school myself then have them come in sick. I really appreciate reading this today tho. Sometimes I forget other people’s perspective.

thearee
over 1 year

Oh girl! I feel that. I remember working in childcare and education and how hard it was when anyone called in sick and how it made my job twice as hard. You definitely deserve to be frustrated with having to work even harder than you already do! It sounds like it is more the circumstance than the person. The other thing I would consider is if this is a habitual thing and if I felt someone’s taking advantage. That’s a whole other conversation.

SarahJoy
over 1 year

@thearee you are very right. I like that saying. I think I am able to recognize I'm more upset with the situation rather than the person. In my line of work when someone is gone EVERYBODY is affected. So I think it's that disruption that aggravates me. I then find myself persecuting myself for being upset in the first place. It is still difficult for me to have my feelings when my feelings might be hurtful to someone else.

thearee
over 1 year

I totally understand! It can be so frustrating! Whenever I start feeling that creep up I repeat to myself “I can’t measure them by my measuring stick”. We all have different capacities and experiences so realizing what seems so easy for me might be the hardest thing for the other person. Likewise, I don’t want people measuring me by their measuring sticks. I think of times where I’ve had a thin friend tell me how easy it is to be thin when that has not been my experience or a friend with no kids tells me how easy it is to potty train. It’s not a fair comparison for them to project their ideas or experiences on me when our realities are so different. Sending you love and patience dear friend! 💗

SarahJoy
over 1 year

Thanks Angie!

Angie
over 1 year

All.The.Time. I too struggle with managing my expectations. I try to tell myself that everyone is different and have their own areas they shine. But it can be super frustrating, especially when it seems like such a simple thing. Lots of deep breaths...Lol