Today I picked up Lauretta (my 4 years old) from preschool and she was sharing with me about how two of the kids won’t play with her and broke down crying and I was immediately triggered. I tried to stay grounded as I shared with her that not everyone is going to want to be our friends and then asked her to name her friends that do play with her and she gave me a half dozen names but then responded that she really wants to play with the 2 kids who are rejecting her. She started crying and all I could do was hold her.
As a people pleaser who has spent my whole life trying to make people like me I want to stop this cycle with Lauretta but I feel like I don’t have the tools
Any suggestions on books for her (and/or me) that help give tools to combat these tendencies?